Wednesday, May 19, 2010

What ever happened to manners???

Why is it that people think that they can behave badly or be rude when posting comments or responding to online posts by others??  Just because you are not face to face with a person doesn't give any anyone the right to forget your manners and social ettiquette.

With the evolution of technology and the ability to communicate via many various means, many people seem to have lost sight of the basic skills required.  Social ettiquete now requires "nettiquette" which is the behaviour one should display when using the internet to chat or post messages.

My philosophy is that you should speak to people the way you wish to be spoken to. When it comes down to communicating / social networking it's just the same as sitting in the same room as a group of people only that it is a far larger group and what you say and how you behave is seen by more people.  You are putting yourself out there and what you say or do represents you.  It is important to consider how your comments, statements and behaviour will be perceived. If you want to be heard and respected the proper netiquette is necessary.

Our parents and teachers taught us the the practice of good manners - being polite and helpful, being kind and not aggressive, being mindful of the fact that others may see things differently than ourselves.  Netiquette is no different.  Being polite to others is all the more important on the net because there are no facial expressions tone of voice or body language to help us understand another person, as there is in face to face meetings.
I say ...
  • if you wouldn't say something to someone in person then why be a coward and post it? 
  • if you don't have anything nice to say then DON'T say it at all
  • sometimes saying nothing is better than saying something
Freedom of expression should not be at the expense of good manners.


Tuesday, May 18, 2010

I shall, I will - I can!!

"Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I shall have the belief that I can do it. I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not have it at the beginning."

 Mahatma Gandhi1869-1948, Indian Nationalist Leader

Monday, May 3, 2010

How to make an Expresso Martini

Espresso Martini recipes

1 1/2 oz vodka
1 1/2 oz Kahlua® coffee liqueur
1 oz Bailey's® Irish cream
3 oz espresso

Brew espresso fresh. Pour into a cocktail shaker half-filled with ice cubes and add other ingredients. Shake well, strain into a cocktail glass, and serve.
 Or ... 

1 oz cold espresso
1 1/2 oz Absolut® vodka
1 1/2 oz Kahlua® coffee liqueur
1 oz white creme de cacao

Pour ingredients into shaker filled with ice, shake vigorously, and strain into chilled martini glass. It should be somewhat frothy.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Always be true to yourself

"He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away." 
  Raymond Hull

Why is it when people meet / fall in love with another that they so hard to change them???  This is something I have trouble coming to grips with.

My understanding is that if you have fallen in love with a person, you have fallen in love with them for who they are, including their quirks, interests and passion for things in life.

All too often these days I see peoples relationships in turmoil or break up because one or the other partner is trying to change the other into what they would like a partner to be.  Why? Why? Why?

My philosophy is that we are all individuals with our own interests, passions and personalities and in a relationship, be it a friendship or a romantic relationship, we should be encouraging and supportive. 

In having individual interests and hobbies, it gives time out when needed and the opportunity to learn, live and grow.  It also gives an opportunity to then be able to share with friends and partners.

Our passions should be fuelled with encouragement and support, not smothered and snuffed out like a candle.   

I say:
  • Don't go into a relationship thinking you can change someone. It's not going to happen.  
  • I don't want someone trying to change me, I don't try to change other people.
  • You have to be able to accept someone unconditionally or the relationship isn`t going to work. You have to ask yourself  "Can I live with it?" If not then you need to move on.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.
Janis Joplin

Learn to live with self and you will learn to live with others.
Edgar Cayce

The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations.  Eli Khamarov

Farewell Drinks at The Botanic

Expresso Martini - OMG to die for. My new favourite :D